PIZZA MY HEART

The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before. — Albert Einstein

I have lived over half of my life knowing I was different, and choosing to accept that difference. Over the years, I have heard many people call me strong-willed, confident, demanding, bossy, crazy, self-assured, and since my child-hood I have heard "Mich the Bitch" more times then I can count. If you were to ask me to describe myself, I would start first by saying that I am kind and generous, and then would sum up all the adjectives that I have ever been called, into one compelling adjective, "INDEPENDENT!"

An independent woman expresses herself freely, she won't hide the traits of her personality, she doesn't fear people's reactions. She lives on and by her own rules. This is one of the reasons this type of woman will have many acquaintances, but only a few intimate friends; she will only relate to those who accept her exactly as she is.

It’s easy to fall for an independent woman: her self-confidence is hard to resist; her “I don’t take shit from no one” attitude, impossible to ignore. She’s a magnet; you want to learn more about her, listen to her talking about her projects, achievements and passions. You want to see her talking about what moves her and what she’s into — she’ll do it passionately, and you’ll be dragged into her tells.

Every man wants an independent woman until they have one. Independent women don't need you; they want you. They always have it all together mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially <or at least they will ALWAYS will appear too>. If you walk into her life, you will need to step up and contribute. Don't just lay back and let her handle everything alone. Strong women need support too. If you desire a woman who has her life together, be prepared to actively participate and support her. If you want to keep her, you have to match her effort.

Here’s the thing about independent women: it’s going to take every ounce of bravery in you to love someone like her. She doesn’t need you, but she does want you. She’s filled with depth and substance, and that means she doesn’t settle for just "small talk." In fact she will never settle, for anything. You will find that she wants to absorb what your thoughts are composed of, what you’re passionate about, and what you believe in. She wants to fall in love with your mind the same way you did hers. If she wants a relationship with you, you’re going to have to love her without taking her independence and bravery away. She’s strong and wise because of everything she’s been through. She had a past that felt like hell!

But while independent women bring a lot to the table, some potential partners may have trouble navigating romantic relationships with them. In most cases, they will get offended by her need to be direct. A strong woman who is sure of herself is not going to beat around the bush. She’ll be honest and direct, as she tells you how it is. If you hurt her feelings, she’ll tell you, and if you’re not pulling your weight in the relationship, she’ll let you know. But most importantly, she’ll want you to do the same. 

Independent women can sometimes seem closed-offish, but that’s often just a way of protecting their hearts. If they don’t open up, they can’t get hurt. Will they ever let their guard down? Absolutely, but only after earning your trust. Give her time to warm up to you, and make sure to create space in your relationship where she feels safe, secure, and supported. When she’s comfortable and relaxed with you, you’ll get to enjoy her softer side. 

She doesn’t believe that a relationship is going to complete her or make her happy. She probably already is. But if she wants you, you’re going to complement her happiness in a way she knows nobody else can. She’s not clingy or needy, but she will love you harder than any woman in the past. But first, you have to be strong enough to deserve her.

She’s not some heartless robot—she’s a woman with thoughts and feelings, and she knows that she is deserving of love and support, just like any other person. If you love an independent woman, focus on offering her love and support.

I hope you never, ever dare tell her that she’s 'too much' or that she is 'crazy', simply because you can’t handle the fire inside her. I hope you don’t try to control her and you realize that in order to love her, you shouldn’t cage her into "your own definition of love."

She knows that love is patient and kind above all else, and if she chooses to be with you, it is because she sees something amazing in you. Your power and money won't interest her. Your kindness and devotion to her will be what she is drawn to the most. A strong independent woman is looking for what all woman want in a relationship, honesty, trust, loyality, understanding, and acceptance. But even more then any of these she wants the most powerful kind of love, love in it's highest form, Agape love, and of course laughter. Being the independent woman that I have always been, I want all of this, with a slice of Eros love.